Is Having a Child a “Rational” Decision, part 2

This article in NPR discusses some writings on the topic.

You can read it, or not, before commenting.

I would vote no. Just ran across a funny line in Liz Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love, where her friend tells her that having a child is like getting a tattoo on your face — you should be really sure before doing it.

But how can anyone be sure of something for which they can have no possible idea what it will actually be like before they do it, one might ask, not-all-that-rhetorically.

I’m not saying it’s not worth it, or that I regret it, I’m just saying that what I thought it would be before I went ahead (and had THREE for crying out loud!) resembles very little what it actually was.

Just sayin’.


8 Responses to “Is Having a Child a “Rational” Decision, part 2”

  1. March 11, 2013 at 5:04 pm

    So you basically went for three epistemically transformative experiences?

  2. March 11, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    I’m sure the decision about children has only a very small rational component in the vast majority of cases. Further, I’d say the emotional reason behind most people’s decision would be very difficult to discover, even for some sort of suitably trained professional. I certainly had no idea what having children would really be like, and even now that I’m most of the way through the process, I have very little idea of what they will mean for me in the future.

  3. March 11, 2013 at 9:49 pm

    It’s even more complex if you buy into Richard Dawkins’ “Selfish Genes” theory… a living animal is just a convenient way for the genes within it to procreate. Greatly enjoying reading Jared Diamond’s “Why is Sex Fun?” at the moment. Not as simple an answer as one might think…
    We had 3 kids for quite selfish reasons – (i) we could financially afford it and (ii) it more than merely replaced our own genes in the gene pool.
    Oh – and the practice was fun too… 🙂

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